Family Follow-Up: P&L, Parents through Surrogacy

At all times we’ve had a great case manager, supporting us throughout the entire journey, ensuring all required paperwork was in place (insurance etc.) and checked in on a frequent basis. Even now the baby is born and we’re finalizing the last pieces of invoices, paperwork etc. we still have the feeling we’re treated with priority and as a human. These journeys can be lengthy and bumpy and at those points it’s great to have a good relationship and support from the agency, which is much appreciated. – FSC Parents P&L

P&L found out about surrogacy through a Dutch television broadcast about a couple who could not carry their own child. They were blessed to welcome a baby boy in 2021 with the help of Surrogate Kristie.

How did you first hear about surrogacy?

We found out via Dutch television, which broadcasted a documentary about a couple who could not carry themselves. We soon contacted Family Source and opened our path to surrogacy.

How did you know that your Surrogate was the one for you?

We had a match meeting with a surrogate whose profile we liked. The matching call was very smooth and very clear that she wanted to carry our baby. She felt very responsible, and that’s something we appreciate and were looking for.

How did you tell friends and family and how did they react? 

This went pretty smoothly. All our family and friends knew that building a family would be one of the biggest challenges in life for us. It did not come as a surprise to anyone.

What was your relationship like with your Surrogate? Was it different than you expected? What is it like now?

Our relationship was open, but we did not have too much contact throughout the journey. I must say all the medical appointments we attended virtually which was great! Maybe sometimes we would have wanted to have a bit more contact but respect the choice. We still have contact on a monthly basis via a WhatsApp group chat with all three of us: IPs + Surrogate.

Did you have any fears or worries about working with a surrogate?

Yes, we did, but this is normal, I believe. Trusting someone to carry your baby is quite a big thing. Especially when it’s international, and you don’t yet know each other that well. Nevertheless, we had full trust in the Surrogate and relationship. It just needed to grow as well in 9 months 😉

What challenges did you face on your journey? How did you overcome them?

At 25 weeks, the water broke. This gave a lot of stress as the baby could be born at any moment. Fortunately, it took another 9 weeks before our miracle baby was born at 34 weeks.

Aside from the birth, tell us was a wonderful memory from your journey.

The first heartbeat at 6 weeks, the day before Christmas, we’ll never forget. Telling our parents Christmas eve that they’d become grandparents was their best Christmas gift ever.

Do you have any advice for intended parents who are just starting out?

The only advice we’d have: never give up on your dreams! Journeys can be bumpy and have highs and lows. It’s all worth it, and the reward is amazing!

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